The road to love goes through being successful, A guide to being successful! The road Know your enemy: Guilt, Part 1
It sounds like you have a lot of thoughts and feelings about the concept of guilt and shame, and how they can impact our relationships with ourselves and others. You mention the idea of "the shame matrix" and how it can distort our reality and make us feel alienated. You also touch on the idea of self-forgiveness as a way to deal with guilt and wrongdoing, and the importance of open communication and feedback in relationships. It's clear that these are important issues for you and that you are passionate about exploring them further. Overall it seems you want to share your thoughts with others and get feedback.
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Hey there!
I was rather happy with the relaunch of this personal project! But now I am baffled how to proceed! I want to talk about the big beasts I had to encounter and still battling. Oh man! Although I do not have an audience... at this point, I do care about you! I mean at the end of the day, some of the concepts, I know how to communicate them with me. But I am not sure about you.
At any rate, I do not question your intelligence. Seriously, everyone who does that, he is an idiot. I do say he because I cherish stereotypes. Not as a valid form of reality, but as pressure from people's opinion on the people the stereotypes are referring into. So fast to dismiss the validity of stereotypes! But what about the effect they already have on the people are referring onto. Furthermore what about the white stereotypes? The stereotypes that add an expectation on you under a specific label! Like you are a student, you are tough, you are a boy, you are a man, you are a woman, you are a mother!
All these labels, come we predefined stereotypical expectations of how we should act and be! Well, obviously fuck it! If it is not obvious, it's ok of course! Cause fuck me, right? Rule number 1. But as we go to rule number 2 or step number 2! Let's sod off the stereotypes! But why I choose to say he or she is an idiot, it's because I consider my self a feminist! And males have a tendency to be more of a dick when it comes to stereotypes! And I think I just proved it!
Anyway! we do not try to figure out, who needs more slaps to wake up! We all live under the same network! matrix if you like, of social pressure that distorts our reality and how to feel. The shame field, shame matrix, call it what you want. I am very certain of this observation and I am not the only one. Karl Marx, Jesus, Adam, and Eva share this view as well. Furthermore, I believe we do have a lot of manifestations of this matrix in many contexts! I presume it's jihad in the Quran, the sorrow Sint felt, the depression most of us have felt coming from nowhere. The moments you were quietly sitting home and a burdening feeling were filling up the room, a flood of an invisible sorrow coming from everywhere, undefinable how it got in. How to tell, you do not see it, you do not feel it, it's like dementors from harry potter having tea in your living room.
It is the first sin! it is alienation, it's our way to use trade relationships with people which swallow us! An unsustainable system, that kind remind of the economic system of the globe which is based in debt instead of... hmm I do not what sort of economy, will that be! But in human relationships will be accepting, loving, forgiving! I mean Jesus, is one of the dudes that got it very right! Son of God? no idea... but I do not care about the validity of the hypothesis! I care for the context of his words.
One here could claim, rule number 1! Well, we do not care. We examine, the parts that make sense... they make sense, hence they are our truth too! Whatever we do not understand or we do not agree... fuck it, at least for the moment! Please, do not forget to be proud of you, no matter what! It is essential!
It is essential because we have few antidotes for guilt and shame! The one that always helped me, it's humor! Comedy! As a wise friend once said, "The biggest truth is said when the statement is half a joke half a statement". Beautiful! Ingenious... ah, and not my quote! But you know... type long and write a lot! Statistics will favor you! At some point, a master quote to unlock humankind will be formed!
Anyway, back to track guilt and the original sin! Well, Adam and Eva never forgot themselves. That's it! Tam Tam! God forgave them, they never got the memo. It was never about the fucking apple and the snake. It is the fact they can not forgive themselves... They felt naked, means shame and suddenly could not enjoy the paradise. It's like the same forest suddenly became depressing, like an invisible sorrow came where they were, like dementor having a tea party in their living room!
The guilt is an inescapable emotion. There is only the attempt to hide it and assume people do not know about it and at the same time they only way out we know is self-punishment. Amusingly for me self punishment manifest as procrastination in my life... Procrastinators of this world rise your hands and show the finger to the world! I do not know if it helps long term, but this audacity makes my cheeks go wild and when angry I fearless! Of course, I am less rational but that doesn't is by default unwise. Timing will define that, in other words, our ability to use time.
What if wrongdoing was dealt with acceptance of the fact and self-forgiveness? Which implies of course realization of the mistake! I think what still haunts me in my interaction with people, it is the fact they do not want to spend time explaining to me why I am wrong! I mean, I am insufferable stubborn, you see I have even blocked the comments so I can speak my mind only! But fuck you people, I do want feedback! Explain to me why I am wrong, even if I do not get it! You don't have the time or wanna spent the effort... I understand but complain not. Also while explaining, please talk like Julie Andrews! What's the point to explain something like Sauron, after he lost his ring? If you can not... it's ok, I have rule number 1!
But let's focus again on the concept of guilt versus acceptance, love, forgiveness, let's call it ALF. Guilt doesn't have a way out as we said. You killed a whole family with your car? you killed someone by accident and you really didn't want to? You killed someone, but you changed your mind? Well, guilt is not going to help you a lot! You can try suicide and self-punishment. But let's face it, it never helped anyone! I mean at the end of the day Jesus was pissed at Judas, not for the betrayal... but why the fuck he wasn't paying attention? Fucking forgive yourself! You are still something useful for you! Then for the rest. Not as a servant... that's self-punishment manifestation. Feel sad man, I mean yeah, we fucked up! Cry and cry for the wrongdoing. It is ok. Cry for the sadness of the mistake. That's all.
Why you did it, figure out! See not only how not to do it again, but how to save people from doing it again. Be a master, a teacher, a philosopher, a Jedi master if you want, for how to avoid it! You do hold the know-how, how as the human kind we can avoid such a thing. Afling your self! accept the mistake, love yourself as much you can. Enjoy this security and within this security forgive yourself.
I can even recommend a meditation process if you believe in this kind of stuff, (I do! It's an emotional assembly for the mind). Just close lights lie softly somewhere. Breathe slowly, in and out. Then, since most of us hate ourselves to recall the emotion of love in an abstract notion. My self I use god, but for the hardcore atheists, call the universe, pasta monster or whatever it is your love muse. Remember this love, dive in, love in infinity, let it surround you. This warmth, let it feel all your perception and universe. Become one with this emotional pool.
There... in here you are safe. Here you can see yourself, in this love everything is forgiven! Everything is ok! Here, you can see things about you guilt is not allowing you to see!. Nurish yourself and return back in life when feel like.
Ahm, I go on... in my fucking pace! And I use the term fucking to wake us up! Cause in that state, oh I do love you! But forgive me, I still need this veil! Still afraid, but one day... who knows I may be able to show myself.
On a nutshell... guilt hides parts of us from us! Even when we are alone! We can not see the whole of us, we can not deal with our guilt, we shove it so well in the drawers of our minds. We can not recover the information anymore. But the emotional imprint is there, this thing doesn't know how to hide! It's our assembly, it's our brain code. The matrix that dominates human interaction, guilt! The red pill is AFL. But the outside world it is not a rogue world with no sunlight. On the contrary, it's the Bible, it's an alienation free world by Karl Marx. It's us with freedom and the ability to be free. Cause We are free... we do not how to act so!
As my therapist once said, in the airplane, you put oxygen first to you and then to the people in need.
I love me hence I now love you too!
Adam.
Hey there!
I was rather happy with the relaunch of this personal project! But now I am baffled how to proceed! I want to talk about the big beasts I had to encounter and still battling. Oh man! Although I do not have an audience... at this point, I do care about you! I mean at the end of the day, some of the concepts, I know how to communicate them with me. But I am not sure about you.
At any rate, I do not question your intelligence. Seriously, everyone who does that, he is an idiot. I do say he because I cherish stereotypes. Not as a valid form of reality, but as pressure from people's opinion on the people the stereotypes are referring into. So fast to dismiss the validity of stereotypes! But what about the effect they already have on the people are referring onto. Furthermore what about the white stereotypes? The stereotypes that add an expectation on you under a specific label! Like you are a student, you are tough, you are a boy, you are a man, you are a woman, you are a mother!
All these labels, come we predefined stereotypical expectations of how we should act and be! Well, obviously fuck it! If it is not obvious, it's ok of course! Cause fuck me, right? Rule number 1. But as we go to rule number 2 or step number 2! Let's sod off the stereotypes! But why I choose to say he or she is an idiot, it's because I consider my self a feminist! And males have a tendency to be more of a dick when it comes to stereotypes! And I think I just proved it!
Anyway! we do not try to figure out, who needs more slaps to wake up! We all live under the same network! matrix if you like, of social pressure that distorts our reality and how to feel. The shame field, shame matrix, call it what you want. I am very certain of this observation and I am not the only one. Karl Marx, Jesus, Adam, and Eva share this view as well. Furthermore, I believe we do have a lot of manifestations of this matrix in many contexts! I presume it's jihad in the Quran, the sorrow Sint felt, the depression most of us have felt coming from nowhere. The moments you were quietly sitting home and a burdening feeling were filling up the room, a flood of an invisible sorrow coming from everywhere, undefinable how it got in. How to tell, you do not see it, you do not feel it, it's like dementors from harry potter having tea in your living room.
It is the first sin! it is alienation, it's our way to use trade relationships with people which swallow us! An unsustainable system, that kind remind of the economic system of the globe which is based in debt instead of... hmm I do not what sort of economy, will that be! But in human relationships will be accepting, loving, forgiving! I mean Jesus, is one of the dudes that got it very right! Son of God? no idea... but I do not care about the validity of the hypothesis! I care for the context of his words.
One here could claim, rule number 1! Well, we do not care. We examine, the parts that make sense... they make sense, hence they are our truth too! Whatever we do not understand or we do not agree... fuck it, at least for the moment! Please, do not forget to be proud of you, no matter what! It is essential!
It is essential because we have few antidotes for guilt and shame! The one that always helped me, it's humor! Comedy! As a wise friend once said, "The biggest truth is said when the statement is half a joke half a statement". Beautiful! Ingenious... ah, and not my quote! But you know... type long and write a lot! Statistics will favor you! At some point, a master quote to unlock humankind will be formed!
Anyway, back to track guilt and the original sin! Well, Adam and Eva never forgot themselves. That's it! Tam Tam! God forgave them, they never got the memo. It was never about the fucking apple and the snake. It is the fact they can not forgive themselves... They felt naked, means shame and suddenly could not enjoy the paradise. It's like the same forest suddenly became depressing, like an invisible sorrow came where they were, like dementor having a tea party in their living room!
The guilt is an inescapable emotion. There is only the attempt to hide it and assume people do not know about it and at the same time they only way out we know is self-punishment. Amusingly for me self punishment manifest as procrastination in my life... Procrastinators of this world rise your hands and show the finger to the world! I do not know if it helps long term, but this audacity makes my cheeks go wild and when angry I fearless! Of course, I am less rational but that doesn't is by default unwise. Timing will define that, in other words, our ability to use time.
What if wrongdoing was dealt with acceptance of the fact and self-forgiveness? Which implies of course realization of the mistake! I think what still haunts me in my interaction with people, it is the fact they do not want to spend time explaining to me why I am wrong! I mean, I am insufferable stubborn, you see I have even blocked the comments so I can speak my mind only! But fuck you people, I do want feedback! Explain to me why I am wrong, even if I do not get it! You don't have the time or wanna spent the effort... I understand but complain not. Also while explaining, please talk like Julie Andrews! What's the point to explain something like Sauron, after he lost his ring? If you can not... it's ok, I have rule number 1!
But let's focus again on the concept of guilt versus acceptance, love, forgiveness, let's call it ALF. Guilt doesn't have a way out as we said. You killed a whole family with your car? you killed someone by accident and you really didn't want to? You killed someone, but you changed your mind? Well, guilt is not going to help you a lot! You can try suicide and self-punishment. But let's face it, it never helped anyone! I mean at the end of the day Jesus was pissed at Judas, not for the betrayal... but why the fuck he wasn't paying attention? Fucking forgive yourself! You are still something useful for you! Then for the rest. Not as a servant... that's self-punishment manifestation. Feel sad man, I mean yeah, we fucked up! Cry and cry for the wrongdoing. It is ok. Cry for the sadness of the mistake. That's all.
Why you did it, figure out! See not only how not to do it again, but how to save people from doing it again. Be a master, a teacher, a philosopher, a Jedi master if you want, for how to avoid it! You do hold the know-how, how as the human kind we can avoid such a thing. Afling your self! accept the mistake, love yourself as much you can. Enjoy this security and within this security forgive yourself.
I can even recommend a meditation process if you believe in this kind of stuff, (I do! It's an emotional assembly for the mind). Just close lights lie softly somewhere. Breathe slowly, in and out. Then, since most of us hate ourselves to recall the emotion of love in an abstract notion. My self I use god, but for the hardcore atheists, call the universe, pasta monster or whatever it is your love muse. Remember this love, dive in, love in infinity, let it surround you. This warmth, let it feel all your perception and universe. Become one with this emotional pool.
There... in here you are safe. Here you can see yourself, in this love everything is forgiven! Everything is ok! Here, you can see things about you guilt is not allowing you to see!. Nurish yourself and return back in life when feel like.
Ahm, I go on... in my fucking pace! And I use the term fucking to wake us up! Cause in that state, oh I do love you! But forgive me, I still need this veil! Still afraid, but one day... who knows I may be able to show myself.
On a nutshell... guilt hides parts of us from us! Even when we are alone! We can not see the whole of us, we can not deal with our guilt, we shove it so well in the drawers of our minds. We can not recover the information anymore. But the emotional imprint is there, this thing doesn't know how to hide! It's our assembly, it's our brain code. The matrix that dominates human interaction, guilt! The red pill is AFL. But the outside world it is not a rogue world with no sunlight. On the contrary, it's the Bible, it's an alienation free world by Karl Marx. It's us with freedom and the ability to be free. Cause We are free... we do not how to act so!
As my therapist once said, in the airplane, you put oxygen first to you and then to the people in need.
I love me hence I now love you too!
Adam.
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