The road to love goes through being successful, A guide to being successful!; Talk to yourself, before yourself starts talking to you. A.k.a. Houston we have a problem: Part 4
The author shares their personal experience of feeling alienated from themselves and struggling to talk to themselves when alone in a room. They realized that this was a sign of self-hate and shame, and that this distance from themselves could be seen in their reflection in the mirror. They encourage others to be aware of this distance and to try to bridge the gap between themselves and their bodies through self-therapy, such as having a conversation with themselves like an old friend. They caution against trying this publicly, and suggest that changes to oneself should be made gradually in order to recover negative triggers in the mind.
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Hey there!
I was wondering what should be the direction to dive next! Last days have been very hectic and didactic emotionally for me. I observe how much few understanding I have to the solutions I suggest, which also proves to anyone that listens outside there, do not forget rule number 1. It is essential!
However, I would like to discuss and share here a few intriguing concepts that I am confident will be on many people's benefit. I realized the severity of the fact I am alienated with myself. Yesterday evening, I have understood how hard it is to even talk vocally to me while alone in the room. Go on the internal discussion with myself out in the open, how guilt holds me back yet from that.
This was an exceptional peculiar blockade that I realized it meant the obvious, I do not feel comfortable with me, I am ashamed of myself! My god! That deep it was! I immediately started a conversation with myself, why? Well, of course, I end up in front of the mirror talk to me... cause why not?
And here the question got formulated, why it is bad talking with yourself in that particular setting. Because it is a sign of insanity! Says who....? I do find it pretty healthy and does not dispatch me from sanity or reality, On the contrary, is very informative of myself while vocalizing self-thoughts and see unnecessary harshness signs while seeing my self. But most importantly I saw a distance in the mirror!
A self-distance that it is obviously hard to realize, cause it is obvious. An echo of self-hate, spite, disappointment, failure, and shame, that it was just me. Thank god, it is an echo, but I still recall the beliefs by approaching the mirror. Interesting that it is purely neurological. The trigger is recalling memories of how I feel and used to believe.
How much courage does it take you to look in a mirror?
How much courage does it take you to see your wallet?
How much courage does it take to open communication with people you love?
Dear, it is ok! For those who get familiar with the concept of course. We are people with our limitations and we accept it, in front of a mirror. We see ourselves, none can understand you better than you. You can give yourself the comfort look he needs. The body needs some encouragement. Now how this will help? At least you are aware that it will fix the memory trigger everytime you approach the mirror. If you are always happy when you look yourself in the mirror then understand those who do not. Encourage us and tell us how we can look inside a mirror like you. Competition is futile when every snowflake is unique.
Take care of your intentions, not only with yourself but with everyone. It is essential, hear the emotional responses of what you are saying and how does it feel. Because the most important thing it is the intention, what was the intention you placed out. Intentions are an extremely important underlying message coming along with the rational meaning of the sentence.
Intentions do hurt in a subconscious level, we do hear them, it is when we say "I do not like the tone". But it is not guaranteed that we can read other people intention right all the time! Because we carry all the noise. But what I suggest is have this discussion with yourself. Bridge the gap that may exist between you and your body. Your body is you and you are your body, of course. But some distance, some awkwardness exist between the two of you (it will be the last time I will specifically exclude that an unknown amount of people of this society may not identify with this! But at this point, you can understand us! We will appreciate good intentioned, meaning do not try to prove yourself to us! We are emotional, not idiots!) So back to the awkwardness we need to bridge!
Well take a chair and finally talk to you. Yes, I do imply a sort of self-therapy... after all, that is what a proper therapist should do, help you talk to yourself again (We still need them, some concepts we need someone with a steady hand to walk with us. Some emotional responses could affect the physical connectivity of your brain! Hence, if you start feeling upset. Apparently, fast kiss yourself and realize you need more time to deal with it! It is ok, it's only you who know about it. I encourage you to share such an experience with a person who can understand).
Avoid to be hasty, talk to you like an old friend. Remember the Fox from the little prince, she wanted to become friends with the prince, but she asked him to come every day and sit away from her. Every day a bit closer and with time, she will be tamed to be hugged by him. For some of us, we left our bodies for so long alone that they became wildings like foxes and we will need time to approach them again. The neurophysiological explanation of it? Hmm... I do not have a fucking clue. But it worked for me! It indeed released some stress out.
For obvious reasons, I do not recommend you to try it publicly, I will also find it peculiar if someone does it. I urge you to be yourselves, in the measure you can endure. The S-matrix is a dominance that is better to break up piece by piece and not the whole thing in one go for the most of us, and it is wise to understand each change and hear the echoes of those acts. So we can carefully recover negative triggers in our heads, like when we approach a mirror.
This article is less philosophical and more practical, I can not refer to common sense to justify my suggestion. Today indeed is up to you to decide if you want to give it a try. But let me rephrase it a bit if you had the feeling that you were observing your life from a seat on the back, as an audience enjoying a movie. If somehow life in general and experiences you have, feel distant it may make sense to you.
This distance is between me and my body in my case, I have literally created a split in my existence. I am confident that this does generate some dysfunction in my life, but it is hard to explain what, where and how. In general, I had battled with ADHD, Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. Which manifest on me with guilt, shame triggers. While trying to focus on a task, the shame between body and me does defocus me. It creates an uncomfortable sensation sitting with myself. Hence I try to change my attention focus on something more comfortable. But the trap exists, that I am with myself. So, I defocus.
For the time being, my best suggestion is to sit on a mirror, vocally talk to yourself and bring some comfort, then we will wear our bodies again. They will be comfortable. Life won't be from a spectator position. In some broad understand it is sensible when you can digest the triggers of reality, what you feel and experience, you try to take a distance from the incident. It is like someone brought something disgusting home, you can not leave the room, but you try to distant yourself. That it is the distance with myself, I feel like I want to see away from the responsibilities this body has and experiences. Abandoning myself, I brought it up there, and then I flee...
I can not claim that it is everyone case like this, it is a personal discussion, and not many people engage in such a discussion. Will it cure my ADHD? I am optimistic it will improve it substantially, given I made the appropriate effort. Which by now, it should be obvious it is accepted, forgive, love, AFL or ALF, as I realized I keep permutate the words.
In a nutshell... this episode is less robust and concrete as before. The need for my anonymity is more important as never before, I am not sure. However, it is a proper direction for me, maybe for you too. I welcome you to contemplate and give it a try. The only reference to what I describe above is Phillip Pullman's trilogy of the world. In his fantasy book, humans were dual entities, themselves and their daemon. Every being was a body and daemon, living together, kind has the feeling at least Phillip may see some truth in what I am saying. As times passes by, I believe less and less in coincidences and more into subconscious choices through the noise of experience. As artificial neural network have their own way to find correlations through the noise signal we feed them, accordingly our subconscious can supply us with useful for our signals to talk ... reality or make decisions. The question though is how much we allow our subconscious routines to see the world with no shame and how much we listen to them?
I do not recommend you to follow your instincts in every case. We have isolated many parts of us, and instincts do sometimes hide self-destructive or self-punishments routines. Concepts in our decision making that are not aligned properly with us. Seeing the glass half empty in some sense. How to find a route to the subconscious to conscious and rationality, it is very vague and entirely personal path actually. A set of experiences made me open to the concept and understand it is not magic, it is just something I do not understand. But for the time being, I have this mystic vocabulary to describe it.
My next contemplation topic is the state of being in love and desiring someone. As a therapist said, this is the biggest battlefield! all our fears gather ready to shredder us. Well, my dear, it is you and yourself. How much of brave knight, did we allow ourselves to be. This human duality, to whoever it may refer, it is like a knight with his squire.
Even if you are Don Quixotes and Sancho Panza. Remember how much Sancho loves Quixotes, he gave him the time to build his beautiful story. Hence, Miguel De Cervantes became a humanity knight Don Quixotes wanted to be. Their Dream came true.
What about our dreams?
Let's say to the mirror how much we love our knight! Just a phrase, I love you, in the mirror, until your eyes say so and your smile tastes so.
I love me, my knight, hence
I love you.
Adam.
Hey there!
I was wondering what should be the direction to dive next! Last days have been very hectic and didactic emotionally for me. I observe how much few understanding I have to the solutions I suggest, which also proves to anyone that listens outside there, do not forget rule number 1. It is essential!
However, I would like to discuss and share here a few intriguing concepts that I am confident will be on many people's benefit. I realized the severity of the fact I am alienated with myself. Yesterday evening, I have understood how hard it is to even talk vocally to me while alone in the room. Go on the internal discussion with myself out in the open, how guilt holds me back yet from that.
This was an exceptional peculiar blockade that I realized it meant the obvious, I do not feel comfortable with me, I am ashamed of myself! My god! That deep it was! I immediately started a conversation with myself, why? Well, of course, I end up in front of the mirror talk to me... cause why not?
And here the question got formulated, why it is bad talking with yourself in that particular setting. Because it is a sign of insanity! Says who....? I do find it pretty healthy and does not dispatch me from sanity or reality, On the contrary, is very informative of myself while vocalizing self-thoughts and see unnecessary harshness signs while seeing my self. But most importantly I saw a distance in the mirror!
A self-distance that it is obviously hard to realize, cause it is obvious. An echo of self-hate, spite, disappointment, failure, and shame, that it was just me. Thank god, it is an echo, but I still recall the beliefs by approaching the mirror. Interesting that it is purely neurological. The trigger is recalling memories of how I feel and used to believe.
How much courage does it take you to look in a mirror?
How much courage does it take you to see your wallet?
How much courage does it take to open communication with people you love?
Dear, it is ok! For those who get familiar with the concept of course. We are people with our limitations and we accept it, in front of a mirror. We see ourselves, none can understand you better than you. You can give yourself the comfort look he needs. The body needs some encouragement. Now how this will help? At least you are aware that it will fix the memory trigger everytime you approach the mirror. If you are always happy when you look yourself in the mirror then understand those who do not. Encourage us and tell us how we can look inside a mirror like you. Competition is futile when every snowflake is unique.
Take care of your intentions, not only with yourself but with everyone. It is essential, hear the emotional responses of what you are saying and how does it feel. Because the most important thing it is the intention, what was the intention you placed out. Intentions are an extremely important underlying message coming along with the rational meaning of the sentence.
Intentions do hurt in a subconscious level, we do hear them, it is when we say "I do not like the tone". But it is not guaranteed that we can read other people intention right all the time! Because we carry all the noise. But what I suggest is have this discussion with yourself. Bridge the gap that may exist between you and your body. Your body is you and you are your body, of course. But some distance, some awkwardness exist between the two of you (it will be the last time I will specifically exclude that an unknown amount of people of this society may not identify with this! But at this point, you can understand us! We will appreciate good intentioned, meaning do not try to prove yourself to us! We are emotional, not idiots!) So back to the awkwardness we need to bridge!
Well take a chair and finally talk to you. Yes, I do imply a sort of self-therapy... after all, that is what a proper therapist should do, help you talk to yourself again (We still need them, some concepts we need someone with a steady hand to walk with us. Some emotional responses could affect the physical connectivity of your brain! Hence, if you start feeling upset. Apparently, fast kiss yourself and realize you need more time to deal with it! It is ok, it's only you who know about it. I encourage you to share such an experience with a person who can understand).
Avoid to be hasty, talk to you like an old friend. Remember the Fox from the little prince, she wanted to become friends with the prince, but she asked him to come every day and sit away from her. Every day a bit closer and with time, she will be tamed to be hugged by him. For some of us, we left our bodies for so long alone that they became wildings like foxes and we will need time to approach them again. The neurophysiological explanation of it? Hmm... I do not have a fucking clue. But it worked for me! It indeed released some stress out.
For obvious reasons, I do not recommend you to try it publicly, I will also find it peculiar if someone does it. I urge you to be yourselves, in the measure you can endure. The S-matrix is a dominance that is better to break up piece by piece and not the whole thing in one go for the most of us, and it is wise to understand each change and hear the echoes of those acts. So we can carefully recover negative triggers in our heads, like when we approach a mirror.
This article is less philosophical and more practical, I can not refer to common sense to justify my suggestion. Today indeed is up to you to decide if you want to give it a try. But let me rephrase it a bit if you had the feeling that you were observing your life from a seat on the back, as an audience enjoying a movie. If somehow life in general and experiences you have, feel distant it may make sense to you.
This distance is between me and my body in my case, I have literally created a split in my existence. I am confident that this does generate some dysfunction in my life, but it is hard to explain what, where and how. In general, I had battled with ADHD, Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. Which manifest on me with guilt, shame triggers. While trying to focus on a task, the shame between body and me does defocus me. It creates an uncomfortable sensation sitting with myself. Hence I try to change my attention focus on something more comfortable. But the trap exists, that I am with myself. So, I defocus.
For the time being, my best suggestion is to sit on a mirror, vocally talk to yourself and bring some comfort, then we will wear our bodies again. They will be comfortable. Life won't be from a spectator position. In some broad understand it is sensible when you can digest the triggers of reality, what you feel and experience, you try to take a distance from the incident. It is like someone brought something disgusting home, you can not leave the room, but you try to distant yourself. That it is the distance with myself, I feel like I want to see away from the responsibilities this body has and experiences. Abandoning myself, I brought it up there, and then I flee...
I can not claim that it is everyone case like this, it is a personal discussion, and not many people engage in such a discussion. Will it cure my ADHD? I am optimistic it will improve it substantially, given I made the appropriate effort. Which by now, it should be obvious it is accepted, forgive, love, AFL or ALF, as I realized I keep permutate the words.
In a nutshell... this episode is less robust and concrete as before. The need for my anonymity is more important as never before, I am not sure. However, it is a proper direction for me, maybe for you too. I welcome you to contemplate and give it a try. The only reference to what I describe above is Phillip Pullman's trilogy of the world. In his fantasy book, humans were dual entities, themselves and their daemon. Every being was a body and daemon, living together, kind has the feeling at least Phillip may see some truth in what I am saying. As times passes by, I believe less and less in coincidences and more into subconscious choices through the noise of experience. As artificial neural network have their own way to find correlations through the noise signal we feed them, accordingly our subconscious can supply us with useful for our signals to talk ... reality or make decisions. The question though is how much we allow our subconscious routines to see the world with no shame and how much we listen to them?
I do not recommend you to follow your instincts in every case. We have isolated many parts of us, and instincts do sometimes hide self-destructive or self-punishments routines. Concepts in our decision making that are not aligned properly with us. Seeing the glass half empty in some sense. How to find a route to the subconscious to conscious and rationality, it is very vague and entirely personal path actually. A set of experiences made me open to the concept and understand it is not magic, it is just something I do not understand. But for the time being, I have this mystic vocabulary to describe it.
My next contemplation topic is the state of being in love and desiring someone. As a therapist said, this is the biggest battlefield! all our fears gather ready to shredder us. Well, my dear, it is you and yourself. How much of brave knight, did we allow ourselves to be. This human duality, to whoever it may refer, it is like a knight with his squire.
Even if you are Don Quixotes and Sancho Panza. Remember how much Sancho loves Quixotes, he gave him the time to build his beautiful story. Hence, Miguel De Cervantes became a humanity knight Don Quixotes wanted to be. Their Dream came true.
What about our dreams?
Let's say to the mirror how much we love our knight! Just a phrase, I love you, in the mirror, until your eyes say so and your smile tastes so.
I love me, my knight, hence
I love you.
Adam.
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